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Divorce

Posted by oneofthree on September 28, 2009

Well, it’s been awhile. I’m not even sure when the last time I posted was……I suppose I could start all over, I guess I should – as my title, oneofthree will no longer be valid soon. Hrm, I shall be filing for divorce soon. A little over two years into a marriage, and it’s being reduced down to about 20 papers and a whole bunch of numbers. Sigh.

I know it’s for the best, I know that, but it doesn’t make it easier. I just can’t live with him anymore. For the past 8 months I’ve tried to tell him – I’ve tried to have the “I’m not happy” conversation, and he buried his head into the sand and ignored it. My uncle past away, and he refused to go to the funeral with me. My mom got sick, and he didn’t want to go to the family reunion which was the first time I would have seen her since she really got sick – or at least, the first time after they figured out what was wrong with her. And he’s not a nice person when he’s drunk. He’s one of those, I can say anything when I’m drunk, and it shouldn’t matter – you shouldn’t hold it against me the next day b/c I was drunk……well, for awhile I attempted to go along with that, until about a month ago when he said something that just couldn’t be taken back. Something I could never and will never forget, nor forgive. And I know, I know, you are supposed to forgive. And perhaps, perhaps in time I will, but not now.

I went back to the house today. My intention was to grab some more things to tide me over until I get my own place. I’m staying with a co-worker at the moment. And he left me a letter on my jewelry box. Why is it now that he realizes everything that went wrong? Why is that. Why do people take others for granted, and ignore symptoms that could have been corrected and solved months ago – why do they wait until it’s gone to a place where you can’t take it back? So I ended up curling up on my side of the bed – which is still made up as I left it, and balled for awhile. I think today was the first time I really cried over the failure of my marriage. And I feel like a failure. I’ve never really failed at anything before. And I sure didn’t want to start with my marriage.

Ah to be 30 and divorced. What a fabulous time in my life. I must admit, I am having some fun being able to reconnect with friends and co-workers that I ignored by request of the soon to be ex. And it is a little freeing to be able to go back to doing what I want, when I want to. But that freedom isn’t perfect. I would much rather go back to a year ago when I was happy, when we were happy. I would trade all the freedom and fun in the world to go back to that place.

I miss him. I miss his smell. I miss his face. I miss laughing until 4am on the weekends, or the random weeknight. I miss us, the us that left over a year ago.

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Two FSU Football Players Arrested

Posted by oneofthree on September 21, 2007

foot.jpgfootball.jpg TPD arrested Geno Hayes and Joe Surrattlast night on College Avenue around 1:45 am this morning.  Apparently Hayes resisted, or got into an altercation with TPD and was tased.  

With the must win against UAB coming up soon, the fear is that these arrests were justified (I haven’t seen the police reports) and they will both be suspended from the game.

During the Colorado game last weekend, “Geno Hayes finished with six tackles, including two for a loss. Hayes’ effort helped limit the Buffaloes to minus 27 yards rushing and Colorado’s running backs to 25 yards on 17 carries.”

Surratt was out during the game against Colorado with a fractured right fibula.

** UPDATE ** 3:11pm – apparently the two players were arrested for their altercation with law enforcement.  It seems that Hayes was outside Potbelly’s with his shirt off screaming, after being involved in a fight inside the bar. 

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home sick

Posted by oneofthree on September 14, 2007

ugh, home sick.  i woke up with my alarm going off at 7am, and like everyday, hit the snooze button until 745 – only to call in to work saying i wasn’t going in today – ill probably get chewed out by the boss man tomorrow – sigh

last night was fun though.  i got to observe mels class – and i get to teach it tuesday and thursday of next week.  they are learning about homicide and i get to teach the different levels of murder – should be fun considering im working on a murder case now.  i think im going to give the class a copy of the police report to the murder im working on – blacking out names and dates and such, divide the class and have them argue for and against 1st degree murder.  of course, while explaining that it’s the grand jury that decides in florida if the state can charge 1st degree.  should be fun.  when i go and speak to her class, i usually bring pictures and a scoresheet, etc.  haven’t decided if im gonna do that this time or not.

mel used the sorcratic method in her undergrad class.  i almost pulled my hair out listening yesterday to the changes in the fact pattern and such.  while in law school it didn’t bother me, but listening to the kids argue certain things that i knew was incorrect drove me crazy – but her class seems pretty involved and intelligent –

ben and i talked yesterday about me teaching – after sitting through mels class, im really getting an itch to do the same. 

ok – im going back to the couch.  unfortunately there is nothing on in the middle of the day but soap operas……ick.

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